Teenage dating christian perspective
While that’s true in some contexts, teens still want and need “chunks” of one-on-one time with parents.
Despite the fact that teens are transitioning into more independence and often carry a “I don’t need/want you around” attitude, they are longing for the securing and grounding that comes from consistent quality time.
It can become easy for parents to only see how their teen is irresponsible, failing, immature, etc., and become a harping voice instead of an encouraging, empowering one.
Do you intentially set aside time to tell your teen how much you love and admire them? Do you have “date nights” where you spend time together and share with them the things you see in them that you are proud of?
For an example of how the this difference in perspective plays out, I’ve written an article entitled “The Future of an Illusion” which is available as a free download from the Free Downloads section). This one is one of my personal pet peeves (but not just because this is my professional gig).
It specifically looks at my commitment to be involved in “emerging church ministry” as opposed to “youth ministry,” and it you may find some principles within it helpful. I simply do not understand parents who expect and want their kids to have a dynamic, flourishing faith, and yet don’t move heaven and earth to get them connected to both a youth group and local church.
I’m going to let everyone in on a little secret: no teenager can thrive in their faith without these two support mechanisms.
As Christian parents we’re called to bring God’s flourishing rule into our family’s life.
That can’t happen if we’re busy trying to befriend our teen.