Online speed dating for kids
My adoption was not a rousing success, and I know that others are, but I still believe adoption fairs are damaging.
For me it resulted in a dread of self-promotion of any kind as well as a belief for a long time that I would only be valued or loved by others if I did everything to make myself more marketable, e.g., get good grades, a good job, etc.
Potential adoptees often engage in their own pursuit of love, a speed dating of sorts called adoption fairs. Children available for adoption are brought together in a party-like atmosphere to mingle with would-be parents.
The idea is to see if there is a mutual attraction.
Yet the adoption fair setting forces children to understand dating concepts with which even adults struggle.
Technically I was given a choice about whether I wanted to accept them as a placement.
I became a ward of the state of California at the age of three.
By the age of ten, I was a veteran of several foster homes and, with my options dwindling, was residing at a group home – a sort of juvenile hall with the décor of a dentist’s office – where they stick the “hard” cases.
And like speed dating events everywhere, there’s usually an imbalance in attendees (sometimes the adoptees outnumber the prospective parents) and everyone wears nametags.
Five irresistible children's picture books Alas these fairs are not all fun and games.