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In other words, the religiously sanctioned intermarriages are forcing more religiously forbidden intermarriages.In a 2011 article in the Guardian, Syma Mohammed reported on the imbalance at the Muslim matchmaking events she attends in England, where there are sometimes as many as five women for every man.Right now they often just say, “Oh I think we get along,” but they don’t know “what you need to know about a person” before you marry him or her.She also notes that families in the Muslim community have wildly different expectations of religious life and marriage so it is important for everyone to be on the same page.Interestingly, the lack of communication between Muslim men and women before marriage noted by many Muslim leaders is actually part of a larger problem that Ezzeldine believes is resulting in more interfaith matches.Ezzeldine suggests that the Muslim community’s standards for interacting with members of the opposite sex are actually having a deleterious effect on marriage in the community.She thinks Muslims are “making it so hard for our young people to get to know each other at the mosque or any youth groups or Muslim Student Associations, and then you end up tying their hands and then they end up getting to know [a non-Muslim] really well and befriend somebody in a class or at work.Then of course they are going to make a connection and get married.” Even though such marriages are religiously sanctioned when they involve a Muslim man and a Jewish or Christian woman, Ezzeldine still thinks these interfaith marriages are creating problems for the community. .” Ezzeldine says that’s not what she witnesses in her community and others she has visited.
“The way it is presented is that the Muslim man is the one who is supposed to keep the faith in that family . The number of men marrying out has actually created a severe gender imbalance, leaving many Muslim women without partners.
(WOMENSENEWS)– Munira Ezzeldine, a marriage counselor in Irvine, Calif., who is one of the instructors of a premarital course, tells me that Islam in America is at a “kind of crossroads now.” She explains, “We don’t have something called dating in the Western context, you know with pre-marital sex and all the stuff that comes with it.” But young Muslims are also not interested in having arranged marriages as their parents and grandparents did.
“They actually want to get to know the person for a certain amount of time, but also within the boundaries.” If a young Muslim is aiming for this kind of compromise, there are other resources too.
Note: Multi-faith Metro Vancouver is a place of high rates of intermarriage and inter-ethnic dating. 4, 1997 Column: Douglas Todd The murder this week by Muslim fundamentalists of 11 women in Algeria who refused to wear veils was another shocking example of how the struggle between religious fundamentalism and gender equality can play out in some authoritarian Islamic countries.
With Muslims now comprising the second largest religion in Canada, I’m re-posting this piece in response to interest from non-Muslim men and women who are finding themselves falling for Muslims. The consequeneces for Muslim women in Canada who choose not to adhere to the strict tenets of their faith are less severe, certainly less violent, but they still exist, especially when the issue is marriage.